Tagged: Sexual Violence

Male Survivors As Disposable Talking Points Female activists often complain that male survivors are brought up only when women are talking about rape. That’s a gross over-generalization, but sometimes true. Interestingly enough, the same...

We Have a Serious Activist Problem To be honest, we have had this problem for decades. the ease at which a person can simply start advocating on an issue online is both a blessing...

Activists telling any survivor to be silent about their traumas are taking the side of perpetrators. The gender identity of either the victim or perpetrator is not an excuse. Too many activists lack empathy...

  As a male survivor of a likely serial female rapist, I am sometimes asked about “made to penetrate”, which is used to describe how women rape men. Yeah, I know the UK doesn’t...

September 15, 2026 This one comes with a trigger warning. If you don’t like trigger warnings, feel free to keep it moving. Not interested in why you don’t believe in them. Not everything is...

  Since this is a trauma anniversary month and the Goth Girl is stealing my sleep, I’m gonna post whatever comes to mind. Eighteen years ago in June of 2008, I first disclosed by...

  One of my favorite parts of this job is conducting training related to ethics and victim services. Yesterday, I was booked to speak to Army SARCs and SAPR VAs from across the service....

  Reposting for my victim services friends who may be feeling a little pessimistic lately: Before I was a SARC, I spent nearly six years working at RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National...

  There are still too many myths about male survivors and female perpetrators in activist circles. Female perpetrators do not usually use brute strength like in a movie. The woman who raped me used...

  The Thing About Satirical Victim-Blaming As a male survivor of (likely serial) female rapist, I am unfortunately all too familiar with how quickly alleged allies turn into “satirical” victim-blamers. Step 1, someone posts...