Tagged: Sexual Violence

  Since this is a trauma anniversary month and the Goth Girl is stealing my sleep, I’m gonna post whatever comes to mind. Eighteen years ago in June of 2008, I first disclosed by...

  One of my favorite parts of this job is conducting training related to ethics and victim services. Yesterday, I was booked to speak to Army SARCs and SAPR VAs from across the service....

  Reposting for my victim services friends who may be feeling a little pessimistic lately: Before I was a SARC, I spent nearly six years working at RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National...

  There are still too many myths about male survivors and female perpetrators in activist circles. Female perpetrators do not usually use brute strength like in a movie. The woman who raped me used...

  The Thing About Satirical Victim-Blaming As a male survivor of (likely serial) female rapist, I am unfortunately all too familiar with how quickly alleged allies turn into “satirical” victim-blamers. Step 1, someone posts...

I’ve always hated the whole “body count” thing. There are many reasons why a person has had many partners. All of them are that person’s business. My “count” is largely due to an unhealthy...

The Thing About Holding Female Perpetrators Accountable I’ve been talking about my experience with female perpetrated sexual violence since 2008. In the decades since I first broke my silence, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend...

So, this is going to annoy some of you. Some of you will make excuses. What’s new? Some will be offended. Do me a favor, look in the mirror and think about it first...

  One of the lesser talked about aspects of sexual violence related trauma is the impact on sexuality. No, I’m not talking about orientation, more how survivors express themselves sexually. For me, that looked...

I train brand new victim advocates and Sexual Assault Response Coordinators about 6 weeks out of the year. During that training, we talk about relating to people and understanding how their experiences may differ...