Tagged: Sexual Violence

Any time that men or women disclose sexual violence at the hands of women, breathless “allies” rush in out of the blue. Typically, they may say something generic like “all sexual violence is bad”....

It is always interesting and frustrating that so many professionals and incompetent activists rush in with “sorry you’re triggered” as a kneejerk response to even slight disagreement or justifiable anger when working with vocal...

Starting in 2008, I first started talking about my experience as a survivor of a likely serial female predator. Over the years, I switched from national activism to volunteer advocacy to paid advocacy as...

I’ve been telling my story publicly since 2008. I’ve told it to millions via broadcast, print and internet media as well as during live presentations on college campuses and military bases. One of the...

Since 2008, I’ve told my story to millions via various broadcast, print, and internet media. I’ve also spoken on several college campuses and military bases, among other locations. Following every presentation or training where...

As part of my recurring male survivor class, I recently started talking about the difference between activism and advocacy. For male survivors, incompetence among activists is a frequent source of revictimization and victim-shaming. Soooo...

  Okay. I started working on this book about 5 or 6 years ago or so and had to shelve it (pun intended) due to working 2 full-time jobs, 1 in workforce development for...

Before I was a SARC, I spent nearly six years working at RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. Most of that time was spent working on or managing the DoD Safe Helpline....

The Thing About Being Heard When I initially broke my silence in 2008, I was scoffed at, belittled, victim-shamed, and mocked…by alleged allies involved in anti-sexual violence activism. Yes, really. Activists are not necessarily...