The Thing About The Right Time
I was drugged and raped by a female perpetrator in 1990. She threatened me. I kept it quiet until 2008. I was told “now is not the time” in 2008. Then again in...
Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
Male Survivors As Disposable Talking Points
Male Survivors As Disposable Talking Points Female activists often complain that male survivors are brought up only when women are talking about rape. That’s a gross over-generalization, but sometimes true. Interestingly enough, the same...
We Have a Serious Activist Problem
We Have a Serious Activist Problem To be honest, we have had this problem for decades. the ease at which a person can simply start advocating on an issue online is both a blessing...
Silencing Victims is Incompetent Activism
Activists telling any survivor to be silent about their traumas are taking the side of perpetrators. The gender identity of either the victim or perpetrator is not an excuse. Too many activists lack empathy...
The Thing About Made To Penetrate
As a male survivor of a likely serial female rapist, I am sometimes asked about “made to penetrate”, which is used to describe how women rape men. Yeah, I know the UK doesn’t...
The Parts I Never Said
September 15, 2026 This one comes with a trigger warning. If you don’t like trigger warnings, feel free to keep it moving. Not interested in why you don’t believe in them. Not everything is...
18 Years, Goth Girls, and Progress
Since this is a trauma anniversary month and the Goth Girl is stealing my sleep, I’m gonna post whatever comes to mind. Eighteen years ago in June of 2008, I first disclosed by...
From Survivor to Ethics Trainer
One of my favorite parts of this job is conducting training related to ethics and victim services. Yesterday, I was booked to speak to Army SARCs and SAPR VAs from across the service....
Empathy Saves Lives (Repost)
Reposting for my victim services friends who may be feeling a little pessimistic lately: Before I was a SARC, I spent nearly six years working at RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National...
Closely Held Activist Myths About Female Perpetrators
There are still too many myths about male survivors and female perpetrators in activist circles. Female perpetrators do not usually use brute strength like in a movie. The woman who raped me used...