Tagged: Sexual Violence

  The Thing About Satirical Victim-Blaming As a male survivor of (likely serial) female rapist, I am unfortunately all too familiar with how quickly alleged allies turn into “satirical” victim-blamers. Step 1, someone posts...

I’ve always hated the whole “body count” thing. There are many reasons why a person has had many partners. All of them are that person’s business. My “count” is largely due to an unhealthy...

The Thing About Holding Female Perpetrators Accountable I’ve been talking about my experience with female perpetrated sexual violence since 2008. In the decades since I first broke my silence, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend...

So, this is going to annoy some of you. Some of you will make excuses. What’s new? Some will be offended. Do me a favor, look in the mirror and think about it first...

  One of the lesser talked about aspects of sexual violence related trauma is the impact on sexuality. No, I’m not talking about orientation, more how survivors express themselves sexually. For me, that looked...

I train brand new victim advocates and Sexual Assault Response Coordinators about 6 weeks out of the year. During that training, we talk about relating to people and understanding how their experiences may differ...

Any time that men or women disclose sexual violence at the hands of women, breathless “allies” rush in out of the blue. Typically, they may say something generic like “all sexual violence is bad”....

It is always interesting and frustrating that so many professionals and incompetent activists rush in with “sorry you’re triggered” as a kneejerk response to even slight disagreement or justifiable anger when working with vocal...

Starting in 2008, I first started talking about my experience as a survivor of a likely serial female predator. Over the years, I switched from national activism to volunteer advocacy to paid advocacy as...

I’ve been telling my story publicly since 2008. I’ve told it to millions via broadcast, print and internet media as well as during live presentations on college campuses and military bases. One of the...