Tagged: Sexual Violence

Condescension, smug dismissals and being talked down to are common experiences for male survivors – even within allegedly “woke” sexual violence advocacy. As a trained victim advocate with thousands of hours of direct experience,...

I’ve talked about her before, but I decided to put together a graphic to share on my social media accounts. This is just a tiny bit of taking back some power from Shannon.  ...

People often make demands of me regarding what I did to “cause” my own rape. They insist upon asking why I didn’t fight back or react in the way they are so sure they...

I’ve talked previously about my female rapist. I’ve not talked much about a form of sexual assault that is often downplayed or dismissed – groping. When my (then) girlfriend’s bestie groped me repeatedly by...

Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question instead? Rando Internet Victim-Shamer:...

One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers personally attacking them Assuming...

Recent high-profile disclosures of sexual assault, rape and harassment have fostered an environment that has empowered many victims and survivors to come forward. Unfortunately, the rape apologists and celebrity stans feel emboldened to derail,...

As a male survivor of a female rapist who shared my story publicly, I’ve been repeatedly asked by social media activists, “what were you wearing”. The intent was always to ironically victim-shame me in...

There are many ideological claims made about the nature of male rape experiences. One particularly popular activist claim repeatedly shoved in my face asserts that men who have been raped have been “feminized.” This...