Tagged: Sexual Violence

After over a decade of work in sexual violence advocacy, I’ve accomplished much and accepted the ugliness: Being dismissed by ideologues solely on the basis of gender, both mine and that of my perpetrator....

Some of the more annoying things about being a male survivor of a female rapist in the public eye are: Fixation on the genital aspects of the rape. Aggressive demands for “explanations”. Tone-policing from...

Weinstein got 23 years. Meanwhile, Cosby and R. Kelly apologists are sitting in stunned silence. All of their lying exposed to the world: They said there were no charges – that was a lie....

I’ve talked a bit about female skeptics demanding that I answer questions on my rape. They ask about: My erection and her vagina. Did she and I orgasm. “How” did she rape me. If...

Some of you don’t even know this is you. Make no mistakes, every time there is a major story about sexual violence – we see you. Clearly. Excerpts: Rape Apologist Playbook If you don’t...

When I discuss women trivializing sexual violence when the perp is also a woman, this is what I am talking about. Also, when I talk about allies gaslighting us, it is because they smugly...

Condescension, smug dismissals and being talked down to are common experiences for male survivors – even within allegedly “woke” sexual violence advocacy. As a trained victim advocate with thousands of hours of direct experience,...

I’ve talked about her before, but I decided to put together a graphic to share on my social media accounts. This is just a tiny bit of taking back some power from Shannon.  ...

People often make demands of me regarding what I did to “cause” my own rape. They insist upon asking why I didn’t fight back or react in the way they are so sure they...