Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles

Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question instead? Rando Internet Victim-Shamer:...

One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers personally attacking them Assuming...

Recent high-profile disclosures of sexual assault, rape and harassment have fostered an environment that has empowered many victims and survivors to come forward. Unfortunately, the rape apologists and celebrity stans feel emboldened to derail,...

As a male survivor of a female rapist who shared my story publicly, I’ve been repeatedly asked by social media activists, “what were you wearing”. The intent was always to ironically victim-shame me in...

There are many ideological claims made about the nature of male rape experiences. One particularly popular activist claim repeatedly shoved in my face asserts that men who have been raped have been “feminized.” This...

“It took me a long time to get to a point where I realized I had a right to be heard.” – James Landrith Graphic created by We Are The Evidence.  

I have never fit into the “perfect” or “model” victim category. No one fits into that box. Stop looking for the perfect victim. They don’t exist. Really. Over the years: I’ve been shamed for...

I’ve talked before about being raped by a woman. I’ve seldom talked about how she fucked with my head afterward. All of this happened within the 12 hours after.