When I started doing advocacy work on female predators back in 2008, it was SOOOOOOOOOOOO RARE to see a woman’s sexual violence crimes described as rape in the media…or anywhere. […]
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Tag: Sexual Violence
Sexual, racial, gender violence and other forms of discrimination and violence in a culture cannot be eliminated without changing culture. – Charlotte Bunch
R. Kelly Is A Rapist, Maybe Don’t Be His Rape Apologist
R. Kelly will be sentenced soon enough. Get ready for all of the proud, low information clowns to come out of the woodwork with: “What about Harvey????” – He’s in […]
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Reconciling Rape Culture: Final Cut
Media Moderation and Sexual Violence
#SAAPM In 2013, my story was covered by CNN. That year, it was one of the top 10 stories in that section on the website. The story was shared tens of […]
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Toxic Advocacy: Whataboutisms
Advocacy Pro-Tip: When confronted with someone’s horrible, shitty, no-good, very bad, utterly indefensible, repugnant, smelly, abusive, garbage behavior, responding with “what about so-and-so who is worse…” you are engaging in […]
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Body Betrayal and Sexual Assault
#SAAM2020 A common way survivors are shamed is by focusing on their body’s response to sexual violence. Some things that I’ve had to accept: The woman who raped me was aroused. […]
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Body Shaming as a Male Survivor
#SAAM2020 As a male survivor, I am constantly lectured by alleged allies on how easy I have it because no one asks “what were you wearing.” First, that isn’t really true. […]
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Crime Exists Independent of Courts
#SAAM2020 Pro-Tip: Rape is still rape, whether a judge, jury, prosecutor, or police officer signed off on it. Reality exists independent of the legal system, which fails more often than […]
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Sexual Grieving and Healing
#SAAPM – An early part of healing is having no idea how to start. After I was raped, I engaged in some dangerous and risky behaviors: Reckless promiscuity with significantly older […]
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Reflections on a Decade of Advocacy
After over a decade of work in sexual violence advocacy, I’ve accomplished much and accepted the ugliness: Being dismissed by ideologues solely on the basis of gender, both mine and […]
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