Unsupportive Activism
As a male survivor of a female rapist, I’ve heard so many inconsiderate, incompetent and incredulous things from activists. When a male survivor’s story is discussed in the media or online, abusive individuals within...
Tagged: Sexual Violence
Inappropriate Sexual Reactions
As a male survivor of a female rapist, perverse sexual reactions have become an expected nuisance: Women have asked if I and my rapist orgasmed – and how. Seriously, they wanted details. No, it...
Things My Female Rapist Said
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): The woman who raped me didn’t say much beyond warnings and veiled threats. This is...
Male Survivor Trends
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Tend to wait longer than female survivors to seek help. May fear being judged as...
Building Rapport with Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Competent communication skills are important: Mirror their language when appropriate. May describe incidents as “something...
Misinformation About Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): As both a male survivor and a trained advocate with thousands of hours of experience,...
Sexual Violence Reality Check
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Sexual Violence Reality Check – Sexual violence can happen to ANYONE regardless of gender or...
How Was I Raped?
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault: Alcohol and drugs fall under this category of sexual assault. Memory...
Activism =/= Advocacy
I say this with love as an experienced civil liberties activist since the early 1990s AND an advocate with thousands of hours of victim facing advocacy work: Activism can move mountains and effect great...
Invasive Sexual Assault Questions
As a male survivor of a female rapist, female skeptics have asked me very invasive questions: Did my rapist orgasm? How? Did I have an erection? How did it work if I didn’t want...