Male Survivor Trends
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Tend to wait longer than female survivors to seek help. May fear being judged as...
Tagged: Sexual Violence
Building Rapport with Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Competent communication skills are important: Mirror their language when appropriate. May describe incidents as “something...
Misinformation About Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): As both a male survivor and a trained advocate with thousands of hours of experience,...
Sexual Violence Reality Check
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Sexual Violence Reality Check – Sexual violence can happen to ANYONE regardless of gender or...
How Was I Raped?
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault: Alcohol and drugs fall under this category of sexual assault. Memory...
Activism =/= Advocacy
I say this with love as an experienced civil liberties activist since the early 1990s AND an advocate with thousands of hours of victim facing advocacy work: Activism can move mountains and effect great...
Invasive Sexual Assault Questions
As a male survivor of a female rapist, female skeptics have asked me very invasive questions: Did my rapist orgasm? How? Did I have an erection? How did it work if I didn’t want...
Campus Sexual Assault
#SAAPM – According to the Association of American Universities (2020 study), 13% of all college students experience some form of sexual violence. While I have separately talked about my experience of rape at the hands...
Real, Actual Grooming
There is a lot of talk about grooming lately, especially by extremists pushing an agenda of hate. These are a few examples from my life, but the folks who push the “grooming” hysterics won’t...
Ally Failures
NOTE: This will not be everyone’s experience, but it has been mine repeatedly since going public about my own experience in 2008. This is my actual, lived experience and I have the fucking receipts....