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As a male survivor of a female rapist, female skeptics have asked me very invasive questions: Did my rapist orgasm? How? Did I have an erection? How did it work if I didn’t want...

#SAAPM – According to the Association of American Universities (2020 study), 13% of all college students experience some form of sexual violence. While I have separately talked about my experience of rape at the hands...

There is a lot of talk about grooming lately, especially by extremists pushing an agenda of hate. These are a few examples from my life, but the folks who push the “grooming” hysterics won’t...

NOTE: This will not be everyone’s experience, but it has been mine repeatedly since going public about my own experience in 2008. This is my actual, lived experience and I have the fucking receipts....

Whenever there is a discussion of trauma and triggers online, a cabal of internet tough guys and conservative mommies come screaming in to mock the idea of giving a shit about other people’s traumas....

There are many unpaid, hard-working advocates and activists within sexual violence advocacy circles. So much crucial work is done on local levels – unpaid and outside of normal working hours. Then, there are the...

#SAAPM: As a survivor with a public story, I’ve learned a few things since first breaking my silence in 2008: 1 – You don’t owe anyone your story. 2- You don’t owe anyone specific...

“He must have been a giant #whore.” – 1/11/2013 Twitter comment about my rape by “Alice” The thing about that bit of victim-shaming is that I didn’t become promiscuous until after she raped me. Then,...