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My Rapist’s Imaginary Tragic Backstory Upon first telling my story publicly in June 2008, I was quickly confronted with a ridiculous idea. Internet activists arrogantly informed me that my female rapist couldn’t have done...

She kept me silent for 18 years. After that, the next 16 years have been a whirlwind. Since initially telling my story publicly in June 2008, I’ve dealt with a substantial amount of public...

As a male survivor of a female rapist, I’ve heard so many inconsiderate, incompetent and incredulous things from activists. When a male survivor’s story is discussed in the media or online, abusive individuals within...

As a male survivor of a female rapist, perverse sexual reactions have become an expected nuisance: Women have asked if I and my rapist orgasmed – and how. Seriously, they wanted details. No, it...

Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): The woman who raped me didn’t say much beyond warnings and veiled threats. This is...

Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Tend to wait longer than female survivors to seek help. May fear being judged as...

Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Competent communication skills are important: Mirror their language when appropriate. May describe incidents as “something...

Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): As both a male survivor and a trained advocate with thousands of hours of experience,...

Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Sexual Violence Reality Check – Sexual violence can happen to ANYONE regardless of gender or...