I’ve talked previously about my female rapist. I’ve not talked much about a form of sexual assault that is often downplayed or dismissed – groping. When my (then) girlfriend’s bestie […]
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Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
Favorite Albums List
Those who have followed my posts on social media, know that music is my self-care. It has been since I was a teenager. While I own thousands of albums and […]
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Just Enjoy Books, Stop Being So Classist
I’ve been saying this shit for years regarding the snobbery puritanism over ebooks, which have been around since at least the 80s, traded or sold originally on floppy disks. Also, […]
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Victim Shaming Script
Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question […]
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Empathy vs. Enabling
One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers […]
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Rape Apologist Distraction Tactics
Recent high-profile disclosures of sexual assault, rape and harassment have fostered an environment that has empowered many victims and survivors to come forward. Unfortunately, the rape apologists and celebrity stans […]
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What She Was Wearing…
As a male survivor of a female rapist who shared my story publicly, I’ve been repeatedly asked by social media activists, “what were you wearing”. The intent was always to […]
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She did not feminize me…
There are many ideological claims made about the nature of male rape experiences. One particularly popular activist claim repeatedly shoved in my face asserts that men who have been raped […]
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The Right To Be Heard
“It took me a long time to get to a point where I realized I had a right to be heard.” – James Landrith Graphic created by We Are The […]
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I am sooo not a perfect rape victim
I have never fit into the “perfect” or “model” victim category. No one fits into that box. Stop looking for the perfect victim. They don’t exist. Really. Over the years: […]
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