Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles

Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question […]

One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers […]

Recent high-profile disclosures of sexual assault, rape and harassment have fostered an environment that has empowered many victims and survivors to come forward. Unfortunately, the rape apologists and celebrity stans […]

As a male survivor of a female rapist who shared my story publicly, I’ve been repeatedly asked by social media activists, “what were you wearing”. The intent was always to […]

There are many ideological claims made about the nature of male rape experiences. One particularly popular activist claim repeatedly shoved in my face asserts that men who have been raped […]

“It took me a long time to get to a point where I realized I had a right to be heard.” – James Landrith Graphic created by We Are The […]

I have never fit into the “perfect” or “model” victim category. No one fits into that box. Stop looking for the perfect victim. They don’t exist. Really. Over the years: […]

I’ve talked before about being raped by a woman. I’ve seldom talked about how she fucked with my head afterward. All of this happened within the 12 hours after.

PTSD Recap: Reactions and triggers can vary widely from person to person. Multiple traumas can affect the same person in very different ways. Today, PTSD for me was simple and […]