Tag: Sexual Violence

#SAAPM In 2013, my story was covered by CNN. That year, it was one of the top 10 stories in that section on the website. The story was shared tens of […]

Advocacy Pro-Tip: When confronted with someone’s horrible, shitty, no-good, very bad, utterly indefensible, repugnant, smelly, abusive, garbage behavior, responding with “what about so-and-so who is worse…” you are engaging in […]

#SAAM2020 A common way survivors are shamed is by focusing on their body’s response to sexual violence. Some things that I’ve had to accept: The woman who raped me was aroused. […]

#SAAM2020 As a male survivor, I am constantly lectured by alleged allies on how easy I have it because no one asks “what were you wearing.” First, that isn’t really true. […]

#SAAM2020 Pro-Tip: Rape is still rape, whether a judge, jury, prosecutor, or police officer signed off on it. Reality exists independent of the legal system, which fails more often than […]

#SAAPM – An early part of healing is having no idea how to start. After I was raped, I engaged in some dangerous and risky behaviors: Reckless promiscuity with significantly older […]

After over a decade of work in sexual violence advocacy, I’ve accomplished much and accepted the ugliness: Being dismissed by ideologues solely on the basis of gender, both mine and […]

Some of the more annoying things about being a male survivor of a female rapist in the public eye are: Fixation on the genital aspects of the rape. Aggressive demands […]

Weinstein got 23 years. Meanwhile, Cosby and R. Kelly apologists are sitting in stunned silence. All of their lying exposed to the world: They said there were no charges – […]

When I discuss women trivializing sexual violence when the perp is also a woman, this is what I am talking about. Also, when I talk about allies gaslighting us, it […]