Tag: Sexual Violence

Some of the more annoying things about being a male survivor of a female rapist in the public eye are: Fixation on the genital aspects of the rape. Aggressive demands […]

Weinstein got 23 years. Meanwhile, Cosby and R. Kelly apologists are sitting in stunned silence. All of their lying exposed to the world: They said there were no charges – […]

When I discuss women trivializing sexual violence when the perp is also a woman, this is what I am talking about. Also, when I talk about allies gaslighting us, it […]

Condescension, smug dismissals and being talked down to are common experiences for male survivors – even within allegedly “woke” sexual violence advocacy. As a trained victim advocate with thousands of […]

I’ve talked about her before, but I decided to put together a graphic to share on my social media accounts. This is just a tiny bit of taking back some […]

People often make demands of me regarding what I did to “cause” my own rape. They insist upon asking why I didn’t fight back or react in the way they […]

I’ve talked previously about my female rapist. I’ve not talked much about a form of sexual assault that is often downplayed or dismissed – groping. When my (then) girlfriend’s bestie […]

Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question […]

One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers […]