She kept me silent for 18 years. After that, the next 16 years have been a whirlwind. Since initially telling my story publicly in June 2008, I’ve dealt with a […]
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Tag: Sexual Violence
Sexual, racial, gender violence and other forms of discrimination and violence in a culture cannot be eliminated without changing culture. – Charlotte Bunch
Unsupportive Activism
As a male survivor of a female rapist, I’ve heard so many inconsiderate, incompetent and incredulous things from activists. When a male survivor’s story is discussed in the media or […]
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Inappropriate Sexual Reactions
As a male survivor of a female rapist, perverse sexual reactions have become an expected nuisance: – Women have asked if I and my rapist orgasmed – and how. Seriously, […]
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Things My Female Rapist Said
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): The woman who raped me didn’t say much beyond warnings and […]
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Male Survivor Trends
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Tend to wait longer than female survivors to seek help. May […]
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Building Rapport with Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Competent communication skills are important: Mirror their language when appropriate. May […]
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Misinformation About Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): As both a male survivor and a trained advocate with thousands […]
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Sexual Violence Reality Check
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Sexual Violence Reality Check – Sexual violence can happen to ANYONE […]
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How Was I Raped?
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault: Alcohol and drugs fall under this category […]
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Activism =/= Advocacy
I say this with love as an experienced civil liberties activist since the early 1990s AND an advocate with thousands of hours of victim facing advocacy work: Activism can move […]
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