#SAAM2020 A common way survivors are shamed is by focusing on their body’s response to sexual violence. Some things that I’ve had to accept: The woman who raped me was aroused. […]
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Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
Toni Braxton Self-Care Break
Finishing up some work stuff and listening to Toni…
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Aimee Mann Self-Care Break
Aimee Mann fronting ‘Til Tuesday in their debut single and video. Still sounds good decades later.
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Body Shaming as a Male Survivor
#SAAM2020 As a male survivor, I am constantly lectured by alleged allies on how easy I have it because no one asks “what were you wearing.” First, that isn’t really true. […]
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Crime Exists Independent of Courts
#SAAM2020 Pro-Tip: Rape is still rape, whether a judge, jury, prosecutor, or police officer signed off on it. Reality exists independent of the legal system, which fails more often than […]
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Sexual Grieving and Healing
#SAAPM – An early part of healing is having no idea how to start. After I was raped, I engaged in some dangerous and risky behaviors: Reckless promiscuity with significantly older […]
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Reflections on a Decade of Advocacy
After over a decade of work in sexual violence advocacy, I’ve accomplished much and accepted the ugliness: Being dismissed by ideologues solely on the basis of gender, both mine and […]
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Allies Listen…
Some of the more annoying things about being a male survivor of a female rapist in the public eye are: Fixation on the genital aspects of the rape. Aggressive demands […]
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Comparative Justice Hot Takes Are Still Rape Apologia
Weinstein got 23 years. Meanwhile, Cosby and R. Kelly apologists are sitting in stunned silence. All of their lying exposed to the world: They said there were no charges – […]
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Privileged Political Perspective
It is NEVER just a difference of opinion. People’s lives, rights and realities are always at stake. Grow up people. Stop down-playing the damage simply because you lack the spine […]
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