As a male survivor of a female rapist, female skeptics have asked me very invasive questions:
Did my rapist orgasm? How?
Did I have an erection? How did it work if I didn’t want to have sex?
How did she rape me?
No, they are not “trying to understand”. The questions are meant as a pre-emptive “gotcha”. They are meant to teach me that it was my fault. They are a form of rape apologia. Seriously, they find out I’ve been raped by a woman and they want to talk about my penis and her vagina. This behavior goes beyond creepy.
