18 Years, Goth Girls, and Progress
Since this is a trauma anniversary month and the Goth Girl is stealing my sleep, I’m gonna post whatever comes to mind. Eighteen years ago in June of 2008, I first disclosed by...
Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
From Survivor to Ethics Trainer
One of my favorite parts of this job is conducting training related to ethics and victim services. Yesterday, I was booked to speak to Army SARCs and SAPR VAs from across the service....
Empathy Saves Lives (Repost)
Reposting for my victim services friends who may be feeling a little pessimistic lately: Before I was a SARC, I spent nearly six years working at RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National...
Closely Held Activist Myths About Female Perpetrators
There are still too many myths about male survivors and female perpetrators in activist circles. Female perpetrators do not usually use brute strength like in a movie. The woman who raped me used...
The Thing About Satirical Victim-Blaming
The Thing About Satirical Victim-Blaming As a male survivor of (likely serial) female rapist, I am unfortunately all too familiar with how quickly alleged allies turn into “satirical” victim-blamers. Step 1, someone posts...
The Thing About Body Counts
I’ve always hated the whole “body count” thing. There are many reasons why a person has had many partners. All of them are that person’s business. My “count” is largely due to an unhealthy...
Biblical Racism Is An American Tradition
We are seeing more of the same in 2026. Religion and Scripture used to harm others for the sake of power for a few. Back in 1998, I decided to gather some information...
The Thing About Holding Female Perpetrators Accountable
The Thing About Holding Female Perpetrators Accountable I’ve been talking about my experience with female perpetrated sexual violence since 2008. In the decades since I first broke my silence, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend...
Sorry, But Ghislaine Maxwell Is Still A Rapist
So, this is going to annoy some of you. Some of you will make excuses. What’s new? Some will be offended. Do me a favor, look in the mirror and think about it first...
No Refunds, No Returns
February 7, 2026 The Multiracial Activist From the Editor: I’ve been married to a Black woman since 1993. I dated several Black women before her. I have multiracial children and a granddaughter. For...