As a male survivor of a female rapist, female skeptics have asked me very invasive questions: Did my rapist orgasm? How? Did I have an erection? How did it work […]
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#SAAPM – According to the Association of American Universities (2020 study), 13% of all college students experience some form of sexual violence. While I have separately talked about my experience of […]
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There is a lot of talk about grooming lately, especially by extremists pushing an agenda of hate. These are a few examples from my life, but the folks who push […]
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NOTE: This will not be everyone’s experience, but it has been mine repeatedly since going public about my own experience in 2008. This is my actual, lived experience and I […]
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Whenever there is a discussion of trauma and triggers online, a cabal of internet tough guys and conservative mommies come screaming in to mock the idea of giving a shit […]
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There are many unpaid, hard-working advocates and activists within sexual violence advocacy circles. So much crucial work is done on local levels – unpaid and outside of normal working hours. […]
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#SAAPM: As a survivor with a public story, I’ve learned a few things since first breaking my silence in 2008: 1 – You don’t owe anyone your story. 2- You […]
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Veterans and service members who scream “POGUE!” at anyone they don’t like are basically the active duty equivalent of incels. Well, some of them actually are incels. Some of them […]
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“He must have been a giant #whore.” – 1/11/2013 Twitter comment about my rape by “Alice” The thing about that bit of victim-shaming is that I didn’t become promiscuous until after […]
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A demoralizing aspect of being a survivor in the media are trolls. This is a photo of me, taken less than a year after I was raped in 1990. When […]
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