Hypersexuality As A Coping Mechanism
I’ve been telling my story publicly since 2008. I’ve told it to millions via broadcast, print and internet media as well as during live presentations on college campuses and military bases. One of the...
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Activist Rape Apologists
Since 2008, I’ve told my story to millions via various broadcast, print, and internet media. I’ve also spoken on several college campuses and military bases, among other locations. Following every presentation or training where...
Fundie Fight Club
Folks, in 1998, I decided to get in some “good trouble” by quietly picking a fight with a racist evangelical college in South Carolina. I published evidence of something they didn’t want to put...
Where Were You Hiding?
This week, one of my favorite musicians and a beautiful human being passed away after a long fight with cancer. Along the way, he helped countless others with his nonprofit and advocacy work. Mike...
Ally Failures
As part of my recurring male survivor class, I recently started talking about the difference between activism and advocacy. For male survivors, incompetence among activists is a frequent source of revictimization and victim-shaming. Soooo...
Collusion is For the Weak
Periodic reminder that collusion is for the weak. No one is going to forget your shame when this is all over. I’ve been a civil liberties activist for DECADES. That hasn’t changed just because...
Anonymous Feedback Isn’t Always Actionable Feedback
Anonymous feedback forms aren’t evil, but they sure aren’t always actionable. Anonymous, nonspecific feedback can also cause a kneejerk reaction from those who don’t understand how easily they can be weaponized to target people...
Sinéad O’Connor Music Break
The message is still timely and especially poignant in the current, hostile environment: “These are dangerous days, to say what you feel is to dig your own grave.”
Simping for Billionaires (or MAGA Masculinity)
Ya’ll, just because something is technically legal for a particular politician to do doesn’t mean the rest of us lose our right to criticize said decision all day long. Some folks have confused the...
Coffee and DVR Break
Saturday off. Cup of French Roast in my Marine Corps mug and Night Court on the DVR. Just trying to detach from the dystopian hellscape of 2025 for a few minutes.