The Thing About Being Heard When I initially broke my silence in 2008, I was scoffed at, belittled, victim-shamed, and mocked…by alleged allies involved in anti-sexual violence activism. Yes, really. […]
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Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
Keanu is Kind
Hatred of empathy, compassion, and kindness is all that MAGA and the Trump cult has to offer.
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The Thing About Forced Arousal
The Thing About Forced Arousal Often when someone hears about a man being sexually assaulted by a woman, the inappropriate comments and questions begin: Why did you have an erection? […]
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Pizza Getting Soundtrack
On the way to pick up some pizza. Charles does not seem like my 80s and 90s hip-hop and rap playlist as much as I do. He needs to get […]
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The Thing About Brutal Honesty
The Thing About Brutal Honesty When someone brags about being “brutally honest”, I hear the clear emphasis on the “brutally” portion of that statement. What I’ve learned from “brutally honest” […]
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Malignant Activism
Malignant Activism Frequently, social media discussions of male survivor concerns are met with derision from gender focused sexual violence activists. These activists often object to any mention of male victimization […]
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Impacts and Outcomes
Impacts and Outcomes One of the most surprising outcomes of my sexual violence activism and advocacy work has been academic and media recognition of that work. One unexpected example was […]
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Healing is Not Linear
Today is a lazy Sunday with a hot mug of French Roast from Lidl and a slice of apple pie while watching old Law and Order: SVU reruns in the […]
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Sneaky Trauma Responses
Sneaky Trauma Responses Responses to sexual assault can manifest in many unexpected ways. Sometimes, you don’t even realize a response has been triggered. During the rape I experienced in 1990, […]
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My Rapist’s Imaginary Tragic Backstory
My Rapist’s Imaginary Tragic Backstory Upon first telling my story publicly in June 2008, I was quickly confronted with a ridiculous idea. Internet activists arrogantly informed me that my female […]
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