PTSD Recap: 10/31/2019
PTSD Recap: Reactions and triggers can vary widely from person to person. Multiple traumas can affect the same person in very different ways. Today, PTSD for me was simple and common. Sitting at my...
Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
TBT – When a Woman Sexually Assaults a Man
#TBT to another time The Atlantic mentioned my survivor story as part of a larger discussion of female predators. If you keep at it long enough, people do start to listen. Keep talking further...
Satirical Victim-Shaming Is Still Victim-Shaming
I have spoken before about overzealous online activists attempting to satirically victim-shame male survivors because they stupidly believe we don’t get victim-shamed appropriately. Yes, this is a fucking batshit crazy thing that is perpetrated...
11 Years of Talking About My Rape in the Public Sphere
This was an interesting read in The Atlantic regarding Chanel Miller’s recent decision to step out of anonymity and share her story via memoir. It got me thinking about the evolution of my own story in...
Ally Pro-Tip: It is Real Work
Being an ally is real work. More so, especially if you approach it with pre-conceived notions, ideological blindspots or biases. #metoo #metoomovement
Sorry, I’m Not Naming My Rapist
There is a lot of discussion around the #metoo movement about survivors needing to name their abusers. I told my story publicly over a decade ago. I chose not to reveal certain details about...
Ranking Roger and Musical Histories
Growing up as a teenager in a small town in the mid-80s Midwest, there were not a lot of places to hear new wave, ska, goth, punk post-punk and other alt music. I didn’t...
Downsizing for 2019
Tom Weber and Tracy Mumford writing for MPR News on No one wants your stuff, Mom: 10 tips for downsizing: There is a scene playing out over and over again across the country right now....
Conservative Civility Is A Lie
“Politeness” and “civility” are the new buzzwords of the racist right and their cowardly apologists. If your “civility” comes with racism, homophobia, transphobia, and rape apologia I’ll fucking pass. I will NOT be nice...