She kept me silent for 18 years. After that, the next 16 years have been a whirlwind. Since initially telling my story publicly in June 2008, I’ve dealt with a […]
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Category: Blog, Commentary and Articles
A section containing all blog entries, articles and commentaries. Many of these entries were imported from my earlier Blogspot, MovableType and WordPress blogs. In addition, political commentary, articles and essays written for publication and coursework can be found here. Much of the commentary in this section was published in The Multiracial Activist, The Abolitionist Examiner, The Good Men Project and Interracial Voice. Many essays in this section were written for coursework at the American Military University.
Unsupportive Activism
As a male survivor of a female rapist, I’ve heard so many inconsiderate, incompetent and incredulous things from activists. When a male survivor’s story is discussed in the media or […]
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Inappropriate Sexual Reactions
As a male survivor of a female rapist, perverse sexual reactions have become an expected nuisance: – Women have asked if I and my rapist orgasmed – and how. Seriously, […]
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Things My Female Rapist Said
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): The woman who raped me didn’t say much beyond warnings and […]
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Male Survivor Trends
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Tend to wait longer than female survivors to seek help. May […]
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Building Rapport with Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Competent communication skills are important: Mirror their language when appropriate. May […]
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Misinformation About Male Survivors
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): As both a male survivor and a trained advocate with thousands […]
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Sexual Violence Reality Check
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Sexual Violence Reality Check – Sexual violence can happen to ANYONE […]
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How Was I Raped?
Excerpt from my presentation on Male Survivors of Sexual Violence: My Story and How to Help (1 CEU hour): Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault: Alcohol and drugs fall under this category […]
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Activism =/= Advocacy
I say this with love as an experienced civil liberties activist since the early 1990s AND an advocate with thousands of hours of victim facing advocacy work: Activism can move […]
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