Hillary Crosley, writing for Parlour, on Pennsylvania's 'Prove Your Rape' Bill Proposed:
I maintain that all of these vagina-policing laws wouldn’t be an issue if the topic of conversation was male rape, which also happens and few people want to discuss. *throws up hands*
Of course none of that would be an issue because even many female rape survivors and quite a few women in general arrogantly believe that men can't be raped, that erections = consent and that if we couldn't fight them off then we secretly wanted it. We are apparently all supermen and lack the ability to provide meaningful consent, given that we all want sex all the time. Period.
When will people stop assuming that male survivors are treated better than female survivors? Every time someone says something stupid about female survivors or a politician uses their position to attack women, this ridiculous assertion that male survivors wouldn't be treated this way is bandied about as some sort of ultimate wisdom.
No, we are not treated to discussions that our genitalia should be regulated. We are told that we will all become predators – often by those charged with helping us recover from our traumas. We are outright told by men AND women that we can't be raped, laughed at and outright mocked – often by people who should be our natural allies. It isn't that male survivors are considered "legitimate" by politicians and government. It is that we aren't considered – at all. Can we fucking let that one go now?
Being told that you will become the very thing that hurt you, denied access to TAXPAYER FUNDED survivor services, mocked for even mentioning what happened and told it isn't even a real crime is oh, so much better.
When I was raped 18 years ago, it wasn't even a crime as men were not even included in the statutes where it happened. But yeah, it wouldn't be an issue.
Please, can we stop with the false equivalency already? Is that asking too much?