In a survivor forum for rape survivors a female secondary survivor of a male CSA survivor expressed her disgust and said she was revolted by the prevailing notion that boys who have been raped by women are expected to feel "lucky". This got me to thinking about how many times I've been told I was "lucky" to have been raped by a woman or subjected to minimization by some female survivors on the basis of their unwillingness to acknowledge that women can also be predators.
Yeah, rape is fun and games when it is a woman doing it. No harm, no foul and quit whining seems to be the covert message.
Indeed it is revolting. The minimization, snickering and excuse making that some people do when the predator has a vagina is UNBELIEVABLE and disgusting on a level I cannot possibly express.
My own personal favorite is "the patriarchy is responsible" or minimizing statements like "more women are raped than men" etc. It is not a competition. We don't need a hierarchy of rape and survivorhood even if some people at DS feel otherwise.
The "patriarchy" didn't drug me, rape me for 7 hours, blackmail me and demand I pretend to be its boyfriend afterward. A woman did that.
The patriarchy was on vacation.