When I discuss women trivializing sexual violence when the perp is also a woman, this is what I am talking about. Also, when I talk about allies gaslighting us, it […]
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Sexual, racial, gender violence and other forms of discrimination and violence in a culture cannot be eliminated without changing culture. – Charlotte Bunch
“Sorry that you’re triggered…”
Condescension, smug dismissals and being talked down to are common experiences for male survivors – even within allegedly “woke” sexual violence advocacy. As a trained victim advocate with thousands of […]
Read moreCatering to Female Predators
I’ve talked about her before, but I decided to put together a graphic to share on my social media accounts. This is just a tiny bit of taking back some […]
Read moreWhat My Female Rapist Said to Me
People often make demands of me regarding what I did to “cause” my own rape. They insist upon asking why I didn’t fight back or react in the way they […]
Read moreFemale Gropers
I’ve talked previously about my female rapist. I’ve not talked much about a form of sexual assault that is often downplayed or dismissed – groping. When my (then) girlfriend’s bestie […]
Read morePSA: STOP Saying These Things to Survivors
STOP Saying These Things to Survivors – A Public Service Announcement by SurvivorTribe December 21, 2019 Are you a survivor who is fed up with the stupid sh*t people […]
Read moreVictim Shaming Script
Literally every victim-shaming conversation I’ve ever had: Rando Internet Victim-Shamer: I wanna fight! Me: How about I just respond to your totally legit, not at all loaded or victim-shamey question […]
Read moreEmpathy vs. Enabling
One of the more damaging aspects of non-trauma-informed new agey “counseling” techniques is the expectation that survivors must do emotional labor for abusers and victim-shamers, such as: Forgiveness Ignoring victim-shamers […]
Read moreRape Apologist Distraction Tactics
Recent high-profile disclosures of sexual assault, rape and harassment have fostered an environment that has empowered many victims and survivors to come forward. Unfortunately, the rape apologists and celebrity stans […]
Read moreWhat She Was Wearing…
As a male survivor of a female rapist who shared my story publicly, I’ve been repeatedly asked by social media activists, “what were you wearing”. The intent was always to […]
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