When I started doing advocacy work on female predators back in 2008, it was SOOOOOOOOOOOO RARE to see a woman’s sexual violence crimes described as rape in the media…or anywhere. […]
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Sexual, racial, gender violence and other forms of discrimination and violence in a culture cannot be eliminated without changing culture. – Charlotte Bunch
R. Kelly Is A Rapist, Maybe Don’t Be His Rape Apologist
R. Kelly will be sentenced soon enough. Get ready for all of the proud, low information clowns to come out of the woodwork with: “What about Harvey????” – He’s in […]
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Toxic Advocacy: Whataboutisms
Advocacy Pro-Tip: When confronted with someone’s horrible, shitty, no-good, very bad, utterly indefensible, repugnant, smelly, abusive, garbage behavior, responding with “what about so-and-so who is worse…” you are engaging in […]
Read moreBody Betrayal and Sexual Assault
#SAAM2020 A common way survivors are shamed is by focusing on their body’s response to sexual violence. Some things that I’ve had to accept: The woman who raped me was aroused. […]
Read moreBody Shaming as a Male Survivor
#SAAM2020 As a male survivor, I am constantly lectured by alleged allies on how easy I have it because no one asks “what were you wearing.” First, that isn’t really true. […]
Read moreCrime Exists Independent of Courts
#SAAM2020 Pro-Tip: Rape is still rape, whether a judge, jury, prosecutor, or police officer signed off on it. Reality exists independent of the legal system, which fails more often than […]
Read moreReflections on a Decade of Advocacy
After over a decade of work in sexual violence advocacy, I’ve accomplished much and accepted the ugliness: Being dismissed by ideologues solely on the basis of gender, both mine and […]
Read moreAllies Listen…
Some of the more annoying things about being a male survivor of a female rapist in the public eye are: Fixation on the genital aspects of the rape. Aggressive demands […]
Read moreComparative Justice Hot Takes Are Still Rape Apologia
Weinstein got 23 years. Meanwhile, Cosby and R. Kelly apologists are sitting in stunned silence. All of their lying exposed to the world: They said there were no charges – […]
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