• This Is Why Male Rape Survivors Don’t Come Forward (or Gendered Victim-Blaming)

    Well, today I was treated to some of the worst victim-blaming I've received yet from rape denialists and self-appointed gender police. I'm so tired of this garbage. Why is this okay? Why is this tolerated? Why are so many people still pretending that this shit doesn't happen to male survivors as well? I'm over being nice. I'm over tolerating the excuse-making bystanders and the colluders. I'm over all of it.

    THIS is why so many male rape survivors stay silent. THIS is why so many of our lives end prematurely and violently – especially those who deal with MST (Military Sexual Trauma). THIS is why most of us will NEVER tell ANYONE. THIS is why so many of us will never heal. THIS is why it appears that so many male survivors seem absent in the fight against sexual violence. Not only do we have to fight against the same victim-blaming from low IQ knuckle-dragging troglodytes that female survivors deal with regularly, we are also targeted often by women who have decided that men can't be raped and if they are – then they are liars who must be bullied, mocked, harassed and shouted down into shameful silence.

    I'm trying not to hate. I'm trying to calm down. It is going to be really difficult. I don't know how successful that will be going forward. People are too damned evil and some of them are just plain worthless. Male survivors, just like our sisters in healing, have a lot of work ahead to fight these types of sick, disgusting, worthless excuses for humanity. For now, I'm just going to have to feel these emotions and try to keep on target. I'm not going anywhere and I'm not shutting up, but I am pissed off and beyond my levels of tolerance for disgusting asshattery right now. Please understand and let me breathe through it. I'm not sure how not to be pissed off right now. I need to accept that.


    Thankfully, I have a strong network of female and male survivors to help me through days like this, when it seems like the walls are crushing down on me and the PTSD is spiking up.  Thank you to all of you who have reached out.  In case I forget to tell you personally, please know that it is appreciated.



    "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." – Mahatma Gandhi

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